I’m funny. You’re Just A Nice Guy. The only guys that get that kind of attention from the opposite sex are few and far in-between. Yes, it happened and yes, the point of rejection is when she says no, that’s it. Explain why the guys in “The big bang theory” who earn 6 figures are single? All right. The point in getting a foreign girlfriend is to take a girl from country which is significantly poorer than yours or from one where is more patriarchy, ideally both. Sure, I am 5’7″ in good shape and my finances are in great shape: no, I’m not a 6 figure kind of guy. Yes dude!!!!!!! Love yourself and be kind to yourself. Thirdly, being the “strongest” in the crowd — whatever the f*ck THAT is supposed to mean — is hardly a recipe for success. There are online therapists you can talk to https://www.betterhelp.com/start/?help_with=Relationships. Back in the past women weren’t so involved with technology like Instagram ect. You want things to be as natural as possible, so you shouldn’t be waiting for me to ask you. I don’t even know how to drive a car! I like a nice quality lifestyle, but try to keep it prudent and within reason. What do you think who she would choose if he had to make a choice, a childhood friend or someone who, hideously, makes fun of her biggest support in life? 20- Women always seem to think “strong men” mean men who are abusive. You’re not going to try again? Your attitude and demeanor will change and trust me, the girls will come. THE WHITE KNIGHT LIVES!!!! After I graduated I was hospitalized and was in a group home for a while. It is all unconcious nature at work. The worst type of bully is an attractive girl. Even online, I would only “like” someone instead of messaging them unless you have something you really want to say. Ok. But let’s not forget, guys have it so much easier than girls. Taking care of someone who likes me sounds like something meaningful, I would like to do for most of my life. They need someone “better” than they are to feel good about themselves and when I say better, i mean that guy would in society be perceived as a better/higher ranking guy. Ok that’s great advice. I can tell you as I have been looking for 9 years now, Women just think all men just want sex, Women don’t want respectful guys, Women can’t make a decision or even commit to a first meeting let alone a date even after talking with them for up to 5 months. I am also aware of different rules I have picked up from pick up artists like using the cold approach where you talk to random women in public casually and ask them a question or give a compliment or whatever. If you’re the type of man that quits too quickly, there’s no wonder you don’t have a girlfriend. This is what always works. After reading this I feel better being single. And this kind of article doesn’t help because it (1) talks to men as if we’re bad children; and (2) places women in the position of being blameless and entitled to get away with anything and everything and all problems are by default men’s. Some girls find a way to use the power … Please note that these friends existed in her life before she met you. And a great deal of these women are very scary and very dangerous as well. If things don’t go well and she’s not trying at all, then she can’t blame the guy for a failed date, can she? I don't care what anyone says either. I did not even shower regularly back then, twice a week at most (I know, gross) and had no job. I was also bullied by some of my school teachers and one of my principals. And you poke fun at autistic people ?!?! And another thing yeah I am picky because there are shitty people like you out there I wouldn’t touch with a 10 foot pole. I’ve at least finally accepted that I might never find a girl because of my situation. You could build a nation, save an entire bus of children from a pitfall, and discover the cure for AIDS, and if you’re not in the top 5% of looks, females will treat you the same as a disheveled serial killer. And let me tell Guess I’ll just wait for my next opportunity to ask a girl out again. If your scared of problems, you will never get anything you want in life. This is a big “no” if you think about getting her for yourself. what’s wrong with me? If you travel a lot, you could get a cat. I have autism so it’s hard for me to pick up on social things. If she knows your favorite drink or food , or knows how u like your coffee , she likes u. For those of us who are extreme introverts and who aren’t used to approaching women and hooking up all the time, it takes literally every ounce of courage we have to approach women at all, even just to say hi. Why because the only viable mates in my area have nothing to offer except a used up p**sy. Further Reading: Reasons to Date Someone from Another Country. Her name is Shannon. My woman friends always say I’d make a great boyfriend and have no idea why no woman has ever gone on a date with me; they I’m just very unlucky and haven’t met the right person yet. 9- But if we make the first move and they’re not interested, women will take offense and often retaliate with at best insults, at worst try to ruin your life. Women either ignore me or only want to be a friend. Never hurts to try. Here's why you got ghosted. Never received any positive feedback. 1. find other things in life that make you happy. Then she’s going to get worried she isn’t good enough and that’s enough to make a girl run far and fast the other way. Why do i have to be a virgin at 22 it's cruel and inhumane . I want my life to have some deeper meaning. Only if by any chance I became a milliner, which is never going to happen. I want to say even if you are ugly and broke or good looking and rich you will get a girlfriend but it will be difficult if you are ugly and very poor because I told you the girl that will love ugly and poor man are already taken only few are left and they might not be in the country you live in or the state.the world has gone digital and girls want digital looking guy and rich too but there are some girls that date and marry ugly and poor guys getting this girls is very difficult to find and finding them is like trying to win a lottery jackpot because almost all are taken already.if you use a dating app you are almost wasting your time because you will end up have depression dating app are full of criminals,fraud,and girls that are doing business you may never get attention if your picture doesn’t look like that of densel Washington and must of the girls are fake girls with extremely stunning,most messages you likely to receive are from perv,fraud,trans,gay,married couples looking for 3somes.don’t try to impress any woman some guys try to impress women by having clean shaving or wearing nice clothes but nowadays most women will be impressed when you look like that guy they use to see in the movie,when you are famous or getting to being famous and have cash to spend and also they like those guy that like smoking cancer saying it cigarettes and they love that guy that every woman admires his looks.nowadays girls don’t want to have boyfriend because they love you they want boyfriend that if you go out with them other girls will be jealous and peeing on their pant because he is hot this are the makeup extravagant stylish girls of these generation. Whoever wrote this just one message go f..ck yourself. The real solution for guys who are having difficulties is: I don’t know how to make people laugh. Women today have really changed unfortunately compared to the past when they were so much nicer and a lot easier to meet as well. It doesn’t mean we don’t have a good job, or are lazy. With your attitude that every girl wants only money, and that this is what is in the first place for all women you will never have the opportunity to achieve a quality relationship with a girl. No woman has ever, and I mean literally ever – shown the slightest interest in me – not in high school, college, graduate school, or in the years I’ve been working – not even one woman, once. Just to vent on the weak. More compassionate. And i know other friends that had similar experiences with these type of women as well. I find it peculiar how you’ve given us a very meticulous list of this to perfect, one of which is “try not to be too perfect”. Women have to realize that most guys are out there putting themselves out there acting like they are into every woman that they decide to break the ice with are really, for the most part, just trying to get a piece from any woman that chooses to give in to their advances. I hate the author, but I appreciate the list. I’m not sure, but ide love to know the answer. !” It’s women like that we remember, when we think about saying hello, and it just shuts us down completely. Hi Arthur, 25, 30, 40, 50, 60 – its NOT too late. Remember you’re not the only one. Stop complaining and start talking positive. At least with natives you can have a proper conversation. Especially the introvert ones.”. Have a lot of fun with your cats ladies. I honestly just want to cry all the time. If you have to keep trying over and over again…don’t. Now, it simply makes women despise you. All you have to do is look good.. that’s it! Maybe she needs a little time to warm up to you? The painful fact is, other guys are – or can be – much more attractive than I ever could be – they can attract women but I can’t – so any woman will by default pick them and ignore me. I move on. I was funny. Look through these tips and pointers and see what applies to you. Salsa classes or any other classes (yoga, art, cooking, foreign language classes etc. And try not to be too picky because if one girl isn’t going to work for you, then you owe it to yourself to try another. Well, that pretty much cuts all men on the autistic spectrum out of the picture, how non-inclusive. How many guys do you see with that behavior?A lot less I guarantee. The fact is though, I do go out – but I can’t meet anyone if I can’t express my feelings to women I’m attracted to. It was a more natural time to be alive. I am pretty and nice (I hope!) But I’m afraid that it just shows how hopeless I truly am in the woman department. Go out learn an art . Quality women ARE still out there–you just have to do some digging–they won’t fall into your lap. I don’t think most people have that kind of time to be swiping 200,000 times. I don’t know how to use Banter/High sense of humor which seems to be the only thing to make a women respond to you nowadays in a nightclub. Well you want to be very careful in meeting women they can be dangerous just like fatal attraction when Michael Douglas met Glenn Close in that movie because well I’m lucky too be alive a crime victim too three women. You’re in your early 20’s?? When women show zero respect for awesome guys and then wonder why we ditch them. I have seen it. I have indicated to several of my women friends that I’m interested in meeting someone and dating – they respond, almost universally, that I’d make an amazing boyfriend, and that’s all – no suggestions, and nothing has happened. Dogs are very therapeutic and always happy to see you. I’m a fairly attractive guy, and I’ve done virtually all the initiating and “pursuing” in my life. At the time I was very fit (bodybuilder type), I’ve always been attractive for about the last 25 years or so (before that I was kind of a quiet nerd), and I have perfectly straight white teeth as well. Remember that women do not like indecisive men. As soon as a woman says we’re friends, I know nothing will happen. Just look at the ugliest guys today that have girlfriends, and are real total losers themselves since they are very hard up going for real ugly guys these days especially that many of them have a ton of money. I wish ALL men would just stop for a decade or two until the dating world is more equal. They never did and I’m 38. My woman friends tell me I have so much to say and so much to offer, and that I just need to be more confident. And they’re real total losers anyway since they just can’t accept many of us single men for who we really are anymore. Women are more interested in what other women think above all else. I honestly use to blame woman and society but as time went on began to realize they have the right to not pick me if they wish but at the same time I honestly don’t know what to do. You want to know the reason you can’t get a girlfriend? Trust me, nothing is funnier than seeing some tart with an undeserved ego asking you for help after bemoaning they’re so strong. They have nothing to offer a man like myself in his 40’s. I believe there are plenty of women like that, and guys too. 16- And when you “tell it like it is” the women will probably slap you or at least be highly offended and leave. Something this profoundly stupid could only be written by a female. It’s really hard to get them to go to any event with you, and they seem to be more concerned about their own life and their problems. Today unfortunately most women are very selfish, spoiled, greedy, and very money hungry as well. If you want to find your value and perhaps find a girlfriend for real, you need to drop your walls and open them up to opportunity. They all live in some kind of fantasy world. i agree, but not all counties/cultures belief that living at home is bad. I think I could stop right here, because this is good enough reason to get a girl. I could go on but you get the idea. But I must come running when they need lift, the cars broken down etc….. Arthur, It’s true that there is a language gap, but if you don’t choose the first pretty girl that goes your way and aim for a more educated one (e.g. I’ve read all the comments and what you have to realise is the bigger picture. Their attitude stinks and they have no manners at all when many of us single men will try to talk too them, and most of the time unfortunately which they will be so very nasty and walk away from us anyway. Never experiencing the affection of the other gender in my early twenties sometimes feels like a punch in the gut. A girl does care about how you look and if you are ugly and a slob, she’s just not going to be your girlfriend no matter how sweet you are. In my case, there is zero evidence to support this claim. The reason why I don’t have a girlfriend is because raising a kid in America is expensive. Trust me woman just want money anyway. A smile and a positive attitude are essential in seduction. 0 0. Just flirting with a woman in Western society could be – and often is – construed as sexual harassment. Yes depending on what you are after, some of us guys go for the 7 out of 10 kind of women while some go for something less to the standard of their specification. If you are working crazy hours and not willing to make time for dating and a girl, you will never have one. I think it’s very telling of our society that it was easier for me to get a lucrative career in a less than 2 years after finishing high school than actually going on a date. However, having a pet may help with loneliness. The rules of logic do not apply here it seems. 1. I am too much into my music project, and I don’t have much money, and I still live with mom and daddy. 7 Hard Truths About Success You Should Know About, 5 Uncommon Ways To Make Yourself Work When You Don’t Want To, 7 Mental Hacks to Be More Confident in Yourself, 5 Things To Do In 2019 To Make It An Indelible One, 10 Questions to Ask a Girl You Are in Love With, 20 Facts About the Apollo 11 Moon Landing Mission, 20 Signs A Guy Likes You But is Trying Not to Show it, 8 Awesome Travel Hacks to Add Fun to Your Trip, 7 Reasons Why You Should Plan an Adventure Trip Once in Your Life, 45 Would You Rather Questions You Just Cannot Answer. For you to call someone a “loser” for still living with their parents is very hypocritical! Women today Aren’t like the good old days we once had when it use to be very easy finding real love back then. So the next time a woman asks, “Where have all the good men gone?”, my answer is, “I’m focusing on living a more balanced life – something that dating never felt like to me.”. I have a square face and big jaw bones. Then you can ask yourself the same question and possibly answer it yourself. I swear I don’t mean to brag. Yet, every time I ever ask a girl out I get turned down or put in the "friend zone". You mentioned in the above article that if a guy is not financially secure then he will not get a girlfriend and let’s face it the more attractive she is the more money and status she is expecting from a man. Learn something, create something, just be a nice person — anything. But one of these two women may be uninterested in the remaining 8 men, or she may be so difificult or demanding that she is undateable. If you are trying to figure out why you can’t get a girlfriend, you need to seriously stop and consider the facts. She can be a Playboy model beauty–but if she’s pampered, spoiled, selfish, and thinks that your job is to satisfy her every desire 24/7 your headed for a life of utter misery. This piece ignores the 80/20 rule. It’s actually making them laugh, bantering, and over excessive levels of confidence that matters most. So enjoy meeting women look for warning signs especially when drugs and alcohol play a Role and abuse starts get out right away. The negative comments, especially on the first date will leave a terrible impression on her and will force her to run away far from you. Give it a chance by asking her again in a week or so and you just might be pleasantly surprised. Believe me when I say the quality of the woman is mind blowing ..You can go to a club if you like but by that point you’ve already got a large social group of woman in your circle because of your ability to dance and be in the social group of the art. I’ve never been on a date and with the last two points above, I think it extremely unlikely – if not out of the question – that I ever will approach a woman with a view to getting to know her as a person, and maybe if things work out, a deeper relationship. I feel hopeless, no amount of positive thinking can change facts that I never had someone to share my life with and possibly never will. When I was 18 I was broke; however, in fantastic shape and could get most women that I wanted. Most of these women weren’t actually anyone special to these guys. But DO NOT EVER be desperate under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES–it isn’t worth it!! I think I have plans…. I love to squeeze her, and she loves when I do! I have yet to ever see or know someone who hangs out only people described. The transformation you are about to … Required fields are marked *, Below is a list of research studies that are currently open for participation. How many times do you see your girl co worker talking to guys and laughing and flirting. I don’t want Playboy or model material women but I do have my standards. I know another lady who married to someone who is quiet overweight. All of what you say is true. Throughout my life I’ve found that when I was the initiator, women expected me to continue it – continue calling, asking out, taking the initiatives every time … and when they hadn’t heard from me for awhile, if they did call me, it was always, “I haven’t heard from you.” Like I did something wrong by not initiating AGAIN. People think it’s so easy for guys to meet women and express their interest – and maybe it is – for them – because other guys are sexually attractive to women (not all women, but if they persist they find some who do like them in that way) and are capable of showing it. I frequent Salsa and Latin dance studios , I go to dance socials as much as I can …Studios and dance socials cost pennies and no most of these settings are nothing like bars and nightclubs . I also write fiction stories and music. I'd certainly say it's harder for a guy to get a girl than the other way around. Same reason i’m single. Only guys have to! The word “MGTOW” never crossed my mind because I don’t like labels, but if the shoe fits you must wear it… Anyway, I read all this because I wanted to see if some of those 21 reasons would explain why it would be better for both me all of those girlfriends of mine if I had never tried to have a girlfriend in the first place. So Kate, with that above statement, I don’t know how you can seriously think men have it easier than women in dating. I am fundamentally unattractive to women, so please don’t tell me that dating is a numbers game, to gain confidence, or to put myself out there and get rejected 10 thousand times. Where you have 10 men and 10 women, 8 of the women will pursue 2 of the men. I feel better. Be gentle and loving with yourself as you would want a partner to be. Before you answer, think what you’d say to a woman who had been through experiences where the guys she’d been with had taken advantage of her … for years. Tired of life already. You get the picture. What I’m going to say to you is this… you must make people aware of what is happening awareness is very important and is the key to discernment. Some tips for all us single men…………. That’s what it’s been looking like for years over here. As long as he is not overtly offensive, most women will let a guy they find attractive get away with saying/doing things they would charge an unattractive guy with harassment for doing. Men who women find unattractive are deemed creeps/harassers however they approach a woman they like. The message to guys seems to be, ‘get rejected thousands of times if necessary – there is a woman out there who’s waiting to say yes to you’ – but in my whole life, I’ve never seen even one shred of evidence to support this. Women want to be able to go out to a movie or a nice meal without worry. Sure, I’m a little rusty but my God it is horrible. It is these women that are just real users and losers in the first place since they will really take advantage of men that have money anyway just to get the real expensive gifts that these men will buy them. Continue being yourself. Wow! I have the confidence, but I get nothing. And if you get STDs well you should have worn a condom. Well first of all the women of today are very completely different from the old days which very much complicates things for many of us good men still looking to find love today. Heck, if they actually made an effort to try to be friends with each other, rather than hook up, they might actually find themselves in a fulfilling relationship – and by the way, real-life relationships are key. You don’t have to be perfect but you need to try. I don’t even approach women since of my past. Whoa, talk about discrimination. Well a song like that should’ve been banned in the beginning since most women were just sleeping around with different men all the time, instead of committing themselves to only one man which would’ve been very difficult for them to do anyway. 2) Back in the old days women were so much better. The fact is, it’s no more of a privilege for a guy to be with a woman than for a woman to be with a man. Low self-worth. Share . Intelligent(despite not being able to get a date). Trivia night, Spot on my friend! Too be honest I am really quiet and shy, but if you know me well I will talk to you. Please understand this before you take one more step forward. It’s sad when people are greedy and many people are, but I don’t think there’s a difference between sexes. Most women are just lost and dont know what they want for themselves and cry back to their exes who beat them because its most likely the man they want in their life.. And trust me, some girls love that.. And no one can deny it, if you do, youre just as bad as the person who wrote some of this “information” in this article. Check out this article where a guy swiped right on 200,000 women and got 150 dates only http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/tinder-man-swipes-right-on-200000-women-with-little-success-a7168056.html. Her -I’m just not ready for dating right now, Her – And also got so much work to do at my job. Hey are you okay? I don’t want to live just do drink beer go to work, go to casinos, sleep with prostitutes and die. In my case, I pretended to be someone I wasn’t to get a gf, but after that I couldn’t keep up the mascarade and felt miserable. You got lots of time. i dont like this list especially the one about money, you can find a few women that dont care just about money! I have a home a car and my Harley Davidson. Now I am former member of Crossroads Clubhouse. Also it’s all about who can cheat on each other and lie the best. Very pathetic that most of these women are to begin with since the great majority of these women are just real total losers altogether now, especially since Feminism is everywhere today.